It was 6 years ago this summer that I moved into my first apartment. It was the best of times, it was the worst of times. Before too long the place became a haven for drugged out teens. There were at least 8 people living there 3 of which were supposed to and 2 of which had a job. I took a second job to help make ends meet. I would come home around 1am and more often than not find people I'd never met passed out on the couch, floor, my bed and once in the bathtub. At first I would be angry about these sort of things and the state of the apartment as it was always trashed. I would yell at people and kick people out but eventually gave up and began a laizzes faire life style. I didn't care who was where or what was happening around me. I simply went with the flow, hardly considering anything anyone else said. Sometimes this would bring me into situations I didn't really want to be in but then I would simply shrug it off. "Whatever" became my catchphrase. Now I am living in an apartment with my girlfriend and roommate. He is disrespectful toward her often when I am not around but recently has started to get ballsy about it.
We had a some friends over earlier this week and all was going well. I was high and getting drunk and enthralled in my chess match when my dickface roommate snatches my girlfriends bottle from her hand and they begin arguing over it. Somehow I was completely oblivious to all of this. Had I actually noticed I would have given him a good what-for until he cowered in the corner as he is one to do. I didn't find out about it until last night.
Last night he was being generally disrespectful and this time I wasn't distracted so I put him in his place. I wanted to hit him but it wasn't warranted.
Now I am on the lookout for more ways to be assertive. Im a pushover and that needs to change. What are some things I should look for? I don't want to just fly off the handle over any little thing but Im tired of being the guy who doesn't care about anything.
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But it's strange as people are scared of me, as in they wouldn't like too fight me, but they're all too happy to take advantage of my often nice nature and probably ridicule me when I'm not there :mad:
Oh, I guess you want to know how to grow balls. Well it is not something that can be taught really. You just have to be a man and figure out what you want and make it happen. Chicks really dig this too. Honestly, you will never be happy in life till you assert yourself. Also, most folks are cowards, if you tell them strongly how things are, not ask them, tell them, they will back down. Now, don't think this means you can whoop everybodies ass, cause you will get put in your place eventually, but do fight for what you think is right for your life. Generally, unless your dealing with a major asshole, they will see you are right and either conceed to your demands or realise the party is over and it is time to move on. Those who move on are not your friends, and should be treated as such.
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Smash his windows, then.