So we go to the mall..and you see thousands of people..but some people may think:
"there is no one to talk to..."
while others may think: "Where should i start talking"
From experience, maintaining a conversation is easy(as long as the person is open for conversation), and getting a "strangers" # is easy as well, but the hardest part is the initiation, or starting, of a conversation. The initiation of a conversation is extremely important because it gives first impressions.
So I ask totse, what are your creative "tactics" to initiating a conversation with a stranger? The reason I am asking Totse is because I have a long history of being anti-social, and I want to start doing the uncomfortable...to be comfortable talking with others =].
A method that I use, for example, I feel like I have to give them a reason to talk to someone, for example..
"hey that looks really good! what is it called? where did you get it?" and then i start.
I am sure there are other ways though, if anyone can provide some input
Ultimately, people want you to go away when your first approach them. They're comfortable with their crowd and don't want to adjust to another person.
Before he started his routine, he would say, "I'm waiting for my friends, they'll be here in a minute but..." or "Hey a quick question,.." He would walk past them and then return as if it was an afterthought, not important and not pre-meditated.
He would also stand in a way that gave the impression he wanted to walk away.
Today's society is vain and over-sexualized. It's no wonder that we've fallen from our true natural human relations, so I'm not surprised why so many people suffer from anxiety and loneliness these days.
This, wtf. How hard is it to talk to a member of the opposite sex like they're a human being instead of sticking them up on a pedestal.
How do I know this works? Well, there was a girl (you know where this is going) on the train who was staying at a Hotel in Central London, and after talking about tourism etc, I chatted about how her perfume reminds me of a better time and she asked if I could show her how to get to her Hotel...and damn, did I do that!
That book "The Game" seems to be way too over-analytical. I knew a guy who'd use it to cover for his major social insecurities. The best advice I ever got was from an Amsterdam cafe that said "there are no strangers here, only friends you've yet to meet".
Make a comment about anything around you. You'd be surprised at some of the stupid shit subjects people respond favorably to. Lately I've been finding reasons to joke with strangers about how much our local power bills have gone up. Little shit like that, things you know people will agree with you on.
People are easy to handle as long as you don't let yourself get all worked up and stupid about it. I used to get real nervous and anxious with strangers too until I realized one day that they all have to drop their pants sometimes and take a dump, just like me.
When did approaching someone and saying "hey" become a science?
Just approach the gal and a "hey, what's up!" should do. If she becomes uninterested or attempts to avoid you, fuck it. Go to another one.
This. The worst they can do is say "No"....or call you a paedophile, depending on the age of said girl. Bear in mind, make-up is deceptive!
I don't know Girls always approach me
Glad you like it, they were a great band.
Lol I think box is describing his own lifestyle.
If you all didn't notice, I never said I had problems talking with girls. If anything, I said, I have no problem talking to complete strangers, but some people, don't liked to be confronted. I just wanted to know some tactics to start a conversation with a random stranger so they are not close minded in talking.
You don't have any problem talking to COMPLETE strangers, but you're asking for help on how to stir up a conversation with a RANDOM stranger? lolwut kid?
Guys who approach girls just like that have my admiration