My girlfriend of 6 years and I have recently split up. I was a bad boyfriend. Cheating. Unable to keep my dick in my pants to be honest. I kept the house and she has moved out. She signed a 6 month lease to an apartment a few miles away. She has stated numerous times that if I need any $ she would be glad to give (loan) it to me. I make good $ but a lot of situations have been coming along that keeps eating at my checking/savings account. All I really need is $1000. I am afraid to ask her because it'll make me feel less of a man. Begging my EX for $ when I want to act like I do not need her help @ all.
Also, another quick ? ... 5 months later I am still in love with her. We keep in touch. Speak every other week. I ask her "so, you think you and I will ever get back together?" and she responds with "IDK, you never know what will happen in 6 months." Why such a open ended response? If she wants nothing to do with me why doesn't she just tell me, like I ask her to do, to move the fuck on with my life. I tell her "if you want me to move on with my life and to forget about you just TELL ME!!" She won't. She says the "you never know what's going to happen in 6 months" response.
Anyway, I need the money for bills. Her Dad was here yesterday and took the washer and dryer. So I have to buy a new set and I don't want anything cheap. Also, I had to purchase a couch she took and a tv (i haven't replaced yet) she took. Money is flying out of my pocket.
What to do? Ask or not? I don't want to take a loan out. Interests rates are a bitch and then all that will be is another monthly bill.
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^This, it's your fault in the first place mate, time to man up and hit the road.
The TV should be the last thing you replace. Deal with your bills first, then take care of the washer and dryer.
I already replaced my couch. Found a really big ass couch for $768. Brand new sectional it is. Either way it is my fault and I have to deal with it. I'll just pick up some extra routes at work (regional Sygma truck driver) and that'll be just fine.
I should stop trying to win her back. I spent $200 on her for our mock anniversary. If we had been together that day it would have been our anniversary. *sigh*
Oh, well, Thanks for the help.
About break-ups. They almost never work out even if you get back together. It's nothing more than the initial human response to leave the situation open when a lot of commitment was made towards maintaining a relationship. One of the reason I don't do relationships myself anymore and tell people straight up so they know what they're getting themselves into. Don't get hung up on the words or actions left behind, it means nothing but could mean ANYTHING you want it to. It's a psychological trick to keep you constantly questioning the "what-if's" instead of making true progress. Drive on with your life as normal. Enjoy what you had and if things later down the road happen to lead to reconciliation than so be it. There is no reason to go above and beyond to "making it work" as if what lead up to the break-up didn't happen because it did. That can't be forgotten, it wont be forgotten, and can never be changed. Women will never forget that, you'll never forget that, and in the end you'll either try harder to be something you're not to make up for it or she'll eventually use it into guilt tripping your conscious.
Excellent response. Thank you, you old school Totse member!
I mean, you did say you're living in a house right, so the payments've gotta be a bitch, and I'm sure there're rooms...
Let me ask you this--why'd her dad take the washer/dryer?
He must not have any friends. He came down here to Illinois and I showed him a good time. I have a lot of friends that treated him like a long time friend because he was with me.
I do not know anything about this guy that is my brother and I do not know why I keep calling him my brother. His name is William, though.
I do have a savings account and I could, RIGHT NOW, withdraw money from my 401K but I DO NOT WANT to do that. I want that to be a last resort but it is looking like that last resort will be the first resort in the next couple of days.
BUT
If you can afford to spend more than $700 on a fucking couch I don't really see you having a cash problem. More like a spending cash problem.
And wanting nice stuff is fine and all, as long as you can afford it. Which by asking about a loan you have shown that you obviously can't. It's all about living within your means.
Little off topic but, by not buying crap you don't need or overly expensive crap, you could have quite a few better things in life.
Don't buy a new tv.
Now, if you do love her so much, don't listen to anyone else. Just ask her, if she wants to get back together. If she has a man, wait and then ask. Tell her plain out you want to get back together with her. If she says no, she says no, and you move on. You'll probably find someone better anyway
and what kind of situations? you got a drug habit?