Me and my girlfriend broke up recently because i was stupid and i let anger overcome everything.
I've calmed down for a few weeks, i took classes, i can safely say i can control my anger and i will NEVER burst out again.
I know i can control my anger because i've been putting myself out there and testing how calm i am toward people who are dicks/asshole in general.
It just dont bother me anymore, and when it does... the problem goes away in a few minute and i cool off without bursting out.
At the moment i know she needs her space and time to think.
I've never really had a serious relationship until now, whens a good time to ask for another chance?
I dont want to do it right now because lets face it, whos going to believe you're a changed person in just a few days/week.
Also, deep down inside i know we both still love each other. Theres just alot of stupid things that are in the way that we cant avoid, such as her parents.
But if you're sure, I wouldn't just start talking to her then just go "So, lets get back together?" you'll want to ease yourself in. Tell her about how you can control your anger, then take it from there. Try not to be TOO long though, or she might find someone else.
I'll just take my time, obviously 1 month is my maximum wait time, too long and being friendly with her means she'll just forget about me easier and move on faster. too short is too desperate. 29 more days to go
As soon as you beg, it's all over. Don't do that.
Don't break contact, go to public places with her and "hang out".
For some reason i have a hard time getting angry. As soon as i realize i'm angry the feeling vanishes. It's probably because i'm generally a little melancholy (read: "have perspective"), that takes precedence.
My anger doesnt make me hurt people physically.
I'm not begging for her to to come back with me either.
Seeing her is kinda out of the question, so at the moment all we can do is email each other, she dont have a phone so texting is also out of the question.
Her parents are too strict, shes basically prisoned at home. so we cant really hang out, even when we were dating i couldnt take her out that much.
I guess waiting is the only thing to do atm and keep in touch with each other with small talk.
Waiting for the big moment to come, that's when ill make my move.
this really is the only way to show a woman you love her ....
If not, bring it up.
Serious props to you for doing so willingly, by the way.
Dealt with waayyyy too many people who could either use it or were forced into it and thus learned nothing.
Give it another week or so, and see if she wants to meet up.
When you do, make sure she sees that you've changed for the better.
Do this a few times, to help drive home the idea of consistency.
After a few times (and only after) bring up the idea of getting back together.
This is going to be far less a matter of literal time so much as using small milestones.
If she can see you're all good and staying that way, with a bit of charm, her feelings for you wont fade, even if it takes another few months.
She's looking forward to seeing me, so i guess i still have a shot with her.