Going to the clinic tomorrow...
StephenPBarrett
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My girlfriend might be pregnant. She's been showing multiple symptoms such as frrquent vomiting, hips expanding, boobs enlarging and she missed her period today (she was supposed to start). Her last period lasted only 3 days and she only splotched a little. She has taken several EPTs and they have all come back negative so tomorrow we are going to the clinic to find out for sure. I'm very fucking anxious.
inb4 abortion jokes I want the kid.
inb4 abortion jokes I want the kid.
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How old are you?
We haven't been together very long. This is the same girl I asked for advice on dating before. She and I make enough money that we will be able to afford a child and retain our current luxuries but only just.
I raised one before though, and it's a real fucking hassle. Like, holy fucking shit, do they cry a lot. And you always gotta keep an eye on them. And care for them. So much work. So much stress. I also used to have nightmares almost every night about something bad happening to her because of all the pent up anxiety and shit.
It is worth it though, in the end. Usually.
Just make sure you're ready if you do go through with it.
Union job, unfortunately thats your best bet, and unless you have some great person willing to pay the bills while you go to college, you are about to join the rank and file. Look for a light manufacturing plant that makes something like light bulbs or batteries, this does not mean you have a job for life, but unions at least have health care programs, sick days, and a bunch of other shit you are going to need as a family man.
Think about an apprenticeship, welding, sheet metal, electrician, find a place where you can start as a grunt, and work your way into something better. If you are a numbers person, accounting might seem like the asshole of all jobs, but I got a buddy who took a one year course, then sweated out what amounted to 3 years of indentured servitude, and now lives in a penthouse in Qatar that would make your eyes bleed if you saw it. Possibilities, man, possibilities.
I don't think bringing a child into the world under less than ideal circumstances has any effect on the chances of that child thriving, just depends on how committed you are to the kid. Lots of kids from poor families do well, and lots of kids from rich families end up as useless fucks sucking the family tit between rehab sessions. It's all up to you. Don't fuck it up, start being a dad now, your life as you know it is over anyway, why not make the best of it?
C/O
"I, also, am thinking of breeding, scared?, you should be."
then go for it and get a job :thumbsup: you can spend that money on weed m beer.
Try not to fuck it up.
Oh, and get a fucking job or find a niche where you can make some extra money. I'll elaborate a little bit later as it comes and you need more advice.