I'm 25 and epiphanizing I'm an orientation other than straight?! — Totseans

I'm 25 and epiphanizing I'm an orientation other than straight?!

MrMojoRisinMrMojoRisin Semo-Regulars
edited October 2011 in Life
To clarify, I am a chick. I've always got a lot of attention, sexual, emotional, intellectual what have you.. from men. They've been my go-to guys. I've always had a much easier time identifying and generally getting along with the opposite sex, perhaps because they wanted to bang me.

Anyway, for some reason I was watching lesbian porn the other day and they started "tribbing." (Yes, I just learned that term too) and it's not that I haven't fathomed scissoring before, it's just these particular girls doing it together was like.. magical! Their energy together was so wonderful, I didn't even feel like I was watching porn! I felt like I was witnessing a wonderful, fun relationship.

Now, I feel like there's a hole in my life. I feel l need a female sexual partner.

Then there comes the question and definition of monogamy.. My boyfriend cannot possibly fill the need or want or whatever it is I have for a girl. Objectively, I know even friends get jealous when their friends choose their significant other over them so juggling two intimate relationships almost seems like hoarding. But the emptiness I'm feeling without a woman in my life has become a gnawing annoyance.

I've always thought of sexuality as a scale. But I've never believed I could relate to a woman the way I feel I can now and I'm eager to explore it. Regardless of all my emotion, I sadly don't think I will find the right girl for me anytime soon. :(

Has anyone else had this sexuality question come up this late in the game? Am I romanticizing lesbianism because of the chemistry of the porn stars? What the hell is going on?! I've had hot girls come on to me before, but they were always so forward it was scary. Any man can lay it on thick and I'm a brick wall, but a sexy woman? I just get awkward and unsure of myself.

So, I'm thinking of hitting up the local les bar in order to sort this issue out further..


  • blink182blink182 Acolyte
    edited July 2011
    :facepalm: then why not just have sex with women? why does it have to be so complicated?
  • MrMojoRisinMrMojoRisin Semo-Regulars
    edited July 2011
    I plan to! But this is a recent revelation within the last few days! I've always been under the impression that people have a clear idea of their sexual preference by now. And as open-minded and accepting as I've been my entire life, it strikes me as odd, that my sexual pendulum has swung so strongly toward women seemingly out of nowhere.

    Yeah, I've kissed girls and "hooked up" with one, but that intimate bonding I've felt with men never seemed possible. Now I feel like I'm missing it..
  • pedicatiopedicatio Acolyte
    edited July 2011
    Next thing you know, you "accidently" viewed some trans porn and then realized that maybe you want to be a trans. :D:
  • LethargicaLethargica Regular
    edited July 2011
    compromise with him:

    Say that you are ok with him having sexual relations with guys as long as he is ok with you having sexual relations with girls :)

    edit: too many acolytes and new arrivals here....HELLO :^)
  • LysdexicLysdexic Regular
    edited July 2011
    First up, welcome back.

    Are you in a meanlingfull realtionship at the moment? If not then you should feel free to play around with another woman. From what I have read most woman feel this way sometimes, no idea why though.
  • MordFustangMordFustang Regular
    edited July 2011
    I love having sex with women:thumbsup:

    Srs- You obviously need to satisfy your curiosity/desire. It's not going to get better just thinking about it.
  • familyguyfamilyguy Acolyte
    edited July 2011
    I think you should go ahead and do it. Just make sure you record it and let us see.;)
  • jamie madroxjamie madrox Sith Lord
    edited July 2011
  • MayberryMayberry Regular
    edited July 2011
    Most girls are bi.

  • MordFustangMordFustang Regular
    edited July 2011
    Mayberry wrote: »
    Most girls are bi.


  • StephenPBarrettStephenPBarrett Adviser
    edited July 2011
    If you are in a monogamous relationship that you care about and want to keep then you really need to talkto your boyfriend about this. Most guys are keen to let their girlfriend have sex with another girl if it means they get to watch. Hopefully him watching wont ruin it for you but probably it will. Perhaps he will be understanding and accepting of your decision to venture and try this new thing. Maybe it will even turn him on thinking about it and the two of you can improve your own personal sex through it. Either you are going to enjoy it very much or realize that it is not at all like how you saw it in the porn (which is often the case). If you don't care to keep your boyfriend go ahead and break up with him if he doesn't see things your way. That will save you from having to come up with an excuse when you do it later. Good luck. I hope you find whatever you're looking for and it fills that void you seem to have discovered.
  • SlartibartfastSlartibartfast Global Moderator -__-
    edited July 2011
    Meet your boyfriend half way: fuck him up the ass.
  • edited July 2011
    I always told my ex gf who was bi that if she slept w chicks it didnt count as cheating. especially if they joined us although we broke up before that went down hahaha
  • MorningsideMorningside Regular
    edited July 2011
    I dunno, I watch porn of all kinds of shit I'd never do in real life (ie traps). But when it came down to actually doing it (ie a trap asked me over to fuck) I couldn't go through with it.

    Give it a shot and see how it works out, cause you'll never really know until you do.
  • edited July 2011
    I've always been under the impression that people have a clear idea of their sexual preference by now.

    Watch some Lexington Steele videos.

    If the power of big black cock cannot reverse the flow of fem-faggotry in your mind, then you must simply accept that your brain chemistry has become fucked beyond hetrosexual repair.
  • dr rockerdr rocker Regular
    edited July 2011
    Buy a sports car, some tweed clothing and a pipe.

    Edit: just noticed the op is a chick. Do as you will.
  • CloudcatCloudcat Regular
    edited July 2011
    Try a threesome with your bf first.

    If that doesn't work, just cheat.

    But you'd be a fucked up person for doing it.
  • tycioltyciol Acolyte
    edited October 2011
    OP makes me jealous that I can't scissor because I have a stupid penis and balls instead of an awesome clitvagina.
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