Sex life disappearing
Do any of you guys find smoking pot to absolutely kill your sex life? Me and my boyfriend had sex pretty often when we first moved in together and it's great sex, really really great. But lately he's been less interested and we hardly ever have sex anymore. It's even making me think about finding it elsewhere. I think pot is maybe to blame but we've always smoked pot and it's fine. He isn't cheating on me and it's acting weird with me or anything. But like last night then I was going to bed and he was like oh I'm just gonna watch the end of this film, so no opportunity there at all. I want to broach the subject with him but I worry that it will make things all weird or he'll think I'm insulting his manliness or some shit. I was okay with it at first because I thought he was tired from working the whole time but he's had holidays this past week so that can't be it.
So boys, have any advice for me?
Should I shamelessly throw myself at him, talk about it, or look elsewhere?
Alternatively, do you have any guy reasons why he may be less interested now. When we do have sex it's HOT but it's not enough....
So boys, have any advice for me?
Should I shamelessly throw myself at him, talk about it, or look elsewhere?
Alternatively, do you have any guy reasons why he may be less interested now. When we do have sex it's HOT but it's not enough....
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Although he has put on some weight, but not to the extent that I find him unsexy.
Could him worrying about putting on some weight make him stop wanting to have sex?
But I'm assuming he isn't fucked in the head like I am, so I would advise you to give out surprise blowjobs. Because even I would enjoy that. And by the way you're talking, just go ahead and cheat on him because you're going to eventually anyway.
Alternatively, let him do anal.
...kinda rapey....
I assumed the break up first bit was implied.
If he rejects, then you should just casually be like "hey, come on, we haven't had sex for ages, I'm so horny!" which makes it not seem like a big deal while getting your point across clearly.
If he still rejects, THEN you should start the serious talk.
Yes, emasculate your boyfriend. That will make him want to have sex with you.:facepalm:
I'm losing interest in my GF. She is a selfish lover and doesn't want to cater to any of my fantasies or fetishes. All the fun has been removed. It's like sex is a job now, and it kills the passion.
If you want to make your man happy and get him in the mood again, do this: Get down on your knees, sit him down, and blow him hard. Don't stop until he cums. Don't even ask where he wants to cum, just take on your face or in your mouth. If my GF would do this, I'd be more than willing to please her. My GF has never done shit for me though, unless it was to get me to please her. She would never just do it too make me happy. She won't even suck me off, or take it on the face. As a result, I'm probably going to be moving on.
How is that emasculating her boyfriend?
Maybe because she's initiating? I dunno either.
I don't think it has anything to do with the marijuana, just switch things up. I like it when a girl tells me how much she wants to fuck me. try that, just little things to get him thinking about it.
That guy is hilarious.
Also, I agree. I don't think the pot has anything to do with it. Maybe it makes him lazy, but he should still want to fuck. He's probably bored and needs to break out of the routine.
Aggressive confrontation towards him about his sex drive. It will most likely lower his testosterone levels, reducing his sex drive, being completely counterproductive to what she's trying to accomplish.
You know, there was this thing that women used back in the day to attract men. It's called charm. There isn't a man on this planet that doesn't get super horny and go crazy over a charming women. Women were raised to act this way. I've only met a small handful of women in my life that are charming. Seems to be a lost art.
I'm curious OP, what is the dynamic of your relationship? Roles, how you interact, etc... Loss of sex drive has a reason, always. When men stop feeling like men, they stop acting like one. Another cause could be his physical activity level. When people get lazy, they also tend to lose their sex drive.
Looks gay to me. There's your problem right there :thumbsup:
Agreed! His mouth looks cock stretched.
Where is that picture from? I don't remember her posting it.
This.
7 months could be about right for the "honeymoon" period to wear off.
But you can use the "coolidge effect" to your advantage.
Change your hairstyle radically, maybe change your hair colour or wear a wig, get some new clothes/lingerie, get new perfume.
Then, when he comes home, drop to your knees and do your thing.
You can also look into
karezza, but that's a "non-conventional" way of solving the problem. It should work, however.
Good luck.
Got everything worked out and things are back to normal. He was really stressed out about money/work and worrying about that kinda put sex on the back burner. But I helped him sort it out and now things are better than ever. Guess I was just over-analysing things rather as just talking about it. I did kinda worry that it was a "cooling down" but it isn't, even though we've been together for a while. My only worries now are trying to keep his mother's desire for grandkids at bay, which is a whole different kettle of fish.