So, i have a very serious case of anger issue and im trying to become a better person.
My theory atm is practice boxing with friends.
Why boxing?
Well, the way i see it is boxing teaches you how to control your anger and reflex.
In other words... thinking before i act.
Also its really hard to think clearly when adrenaline kicks in.
Kinda like when im arguing with people.
The way i see it, boxing is more mentality than physical.
If anyone else have any other ideas on how i can control my anger's. i'd really appreciate it.
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Anyway, I suggest these, to maybe calm you down;
Suqeeze Ball
Punching Bag
Gum Chewing (I'm serious. I've seen it used, and seen it help on people who are angry/stressed)
If I think of anymore, I'll be sure to report back
i always bottle everything up aswell.
The problem is when my bottle is full i let everything out on the one's that i love and care about.
I'm not really material for anger management class as i dont burst out everyday, i just bottle it up and laugh about it.
But when someone i care about try and help me it triggers something in my mind that i cant control... i just burst out yelling and saying things i later regret.
But I digress. I'd love to take up boxing or some sort of disciplined martial arts. A mutual punch-the-fuck-out-of-eachother would do me a world of good. Currently, a workout, a walk and valium with the odd cigarette works for me. TDR has taught me a lot via TeamSpeak on concentration and mental states, as has Jug.
I'm not a cigarette person so that outs of the question lol,
I never really tried to do anything about my anger issues until just recently because of personal issues.
Here's the twisted part... Im suppose to protect my lover, but in the end i couldnt protect her from myself.
In others word i fucked up big time.
But i guess this was the kick that i needed to pursue a better life style.
Or something that doesnt cost that much money.
I'll probably try meditating, but i dont know if theres techniques or do i just close my eye for 2 hour and sleep lol.
Sounds like me. I loose my temper over the most trivial things. I will tell you one thing though and that is going to anger management is a fucking waste of time, Even meditation doesn't help me. I normally go and get high and end up mellowing out for a few hours. That or smoking a cigarette will normally calm me down.
I used to bottle up my anger because I was always afraid to stand up for myself, a condition known to the psychological community as beingapussyitice. I think that after years of being put down by my family and friends i develloped a cognitive distortion where I came to believe that anger in and of itself was wrong, and should simply be resisted. so for years when i was angry I would just hold it in but it does eventually come out and at the worst of times. Now Im learning how to have a healthy and balanced relationship with anger; im feeling it for waht it is (a necessary motivator) and even expressing it. At work recently I was being bullied by this douche who never shuts up and eventually I just let go and hit him once in the stomach. He doesnt bother me anymore. I dont reccomend using violence but some people will only respect you if you show them their boundaries and demonstrate the consequences for crossing them. One thing that reallly helped me was learning krav maga, it really helps with intimidation when you know that you could crush this persons testicles.
Well said, this is exactly what i went through. My dumbass supervisor called me a dumbass for a mistake that he made
at the time i didnt want to fight but i did yell the fk outta him, old guy with heart condition and loves starting shit.
man i wish i kicked his ass before i quit.